Sunday, May 8, 2011

High Maintenance

I was raised in a family where I knew my parents loved me.  No matter the discipline I earned, no matter the forced music practice sessions, no matter the chores.  I knew it.  They never said it much and when they did it was very awkward.   This being the environment in which I was raised I am not good at dealing with emotionally high maintenance people.   I think of my self as the old man in the joke concerning an elderly couple at marriage counseling. The wife says, "You never say you love me." The husband says, "I told you I loved you on the day we got married. If anything changes, I'll let you know."

I'm one that I don't feel the need to overly repeat myself.  I believe we should live the love we feel rather than overly repeat ourselves.  This doesn't imply that I don't care for you or that I don't love you.  Just that you know it and I feel no need to repeat ad nauseum. It would lose it's overall meaning if I were to repeat it.  I realize that was how I was raised but my parents pulled out the 'I love you' as often as they pulled out the china.  And this doesn't only apply to deep affectionate love.  I don't tell my friends repeatedly that I enjoy spending time with them, or going and doing various outings with them.  I don't say to my study buddies all the time that I'm appreciative of the time spent together preparing for class.


p.s. though I wonder if i'm going to be torn apart in the comments considering my readers are mostly female
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3 comments:

  1. Brandy PriceMay 9, 2011 at 7:40 AM

    From what I've seen of your "dating habits" ... Never mind, I won't finish that :)

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  2. Mrs. DarcyMay 10, 2011 at 8:51 PM

    Interesante is all I have to say

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  3. Clarissa LynnJune 10, 2011 at 3:52 PM

    You make me smile, old man. Such things should be saved so when they are said they are cherished. I would advise saying it a tad more that as stated above as some women often need that sort of reassurance more than only at the wedding. Yet, I see that there is no need to make it an hourly proclamation either. One whom needs as such may have an unspoken issue of doubt, self or otherwise. Some women just need to understand that a man says I love you most frequently by taking out the trash and getting your tires rotated.

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